Tag archive: pregnancy loss
The backpack
September is here. For most of us, the best way to describe this month is “back to school”. This means shopping for school supplies, wrapping books, buying new clothes. It also means increased movement on the roads resulting in traffic jams. September fills the bus stops with children and adolescents dragging around their heavy backpacks….
Loss is also a physical thing
If you would have asked me to describe stillbirth, pregnancy or infant loss before I experienced mine, I would have used keywords such as: heartbreak, emotional trauma, psychological trauma, and so on. Although that’s all accurate, there’s a lot more to it than just the mental, emotional and psychological effects. Physical trauma plays a big…
Grief cannot be fixed
It’s been almost three months since we lost our little girl. It’s not only hard to handle this loss, but it’s also very hard to handle all the comments and wrong reactions of the people around us. Although I realize that everyone means the very best for us, these comments are still hurtful. Here’s a…
Grateful for a moment of silence
Katrin and Alex’ wedding was beautiful. The most special day. The most magical event. Filled with bliss. Filled with joy. Filled with emotions. But especially with LOVE. Katrin and Alex arranged for a special time and space to remember the loved ones that were gone too soon and could not join us on this special…
About readiness
Are you ready for a new pregnancy? When are you going to try for a new baby? These questions are popping up a lot lately. People around me see that I’m sad, that I’m grieving, that I’m hurting. And somehow, they want to fix my grief. And they do so by pushing the idea of…
The very first boxes of hope
I cannot even begin to tell how very excited I am to be able to -finally- share this with you. In my journey around the web I found out about these beautiful boxes I could create to donate to other families going through the same terrible loss we did. It brings me great comfort and…
Acting around people who’ve experienced loss
Everyone will experience a loss sooner or later… Acquaintances, friends, parents, siblings, and in the worst of cases… children. This is the time when you need the support of your loved ones the most. It’s completely unnatural to lose a child. We were never taught what to do or say. Because although it happens, it’s still rare. Maybe I would have…